Snooping has no place in a healthy relationship...

Snooping has no place in a healthy relationship…

There are many sane women who feel compelled to keep track of their partner’s activity.  But sanity can quickly turn to insanity when you let your own insecurities get the best of you.

It’s oh so tempting to grab your boyfriend or husband’s phone when he’s not looking, and scan through his emails, text messages, and recent phone calls.  However, it is important to not let temptation get the best of you, and give up thoughts of snooping.  You need to respect your man’s privacy, and give him some space.

If your boyfriend or husband did the same thing to you, it wouldn’t go over very well.  You’d feel like he didn’t trust you.  You’d feel like he was keeping tabs on you.  You’d feel like he was trying to control you.  You’d feel completely disrespected.

Once you start, it can be difficult to stop your snooping behavior.  At times, you might stumble on something that looks suspicious.  However, your mind will tend to make things much worse and much more dramatic than they really are.

Here are some reasons you should never snoop on your man :

  1. Trust lays the foundation of a relationship.  If you can’t trust your partner, you should get out of the relationship now.
  2. It is important to understand that you will never like it if your boyfriend or husband does the same to you.
  3. It is possible you might find something that sets off your own insecurities.  If you over-react and accuse your husband or boyfriend of doing something he isn’t doing, you could completely ruin your relationship for no reason whatsoever.
  4. Constant snooping will never lead to a healthy relationship.
  5. Snooping reflects badly on you and makes you bad relationship material.  It is a reflection of your own insecurities.

When you’re in a good relationship, you need to resist the temptation to snoop.  Nothing good ever comes out of it.

If you’re in a bad relationship and your female intuition is telling you something is wrong, then trust your gut and end the relationship or reflect on the situation and try to get to the bottom of why you feel the way you do.

Has your man REALLY given you a reason not to trust him, or are your own insecurities just getting the best of you?  In other words, did you actually catch him in a lie or did you just automatically assume he must be cheating on you because he came home one night an hour later than he said he would?

It’s possible you are actually causing him to be more secretive because of constant hounding and questioning of everything he’s doing and who he’s doing it with.

Instead of snooping, focus your energy on doing positive things that can help you reconnect with your man.